The Parent-Teen Connection:
How to Build Lifelong Family Relationships
“As a parent, pediatrician, public health practitioner, and mental health advocate, I cannot stress how important this body of work is to help parents understand the key tenets of creating a lasting relationship with their children (of all ages). Through clear examples and concepts, Susan Caso addresses the complexities of the parent-child relationship spanning from infant bonding to homework stress to suicidal ideations. This is a handbook to help us all address the mental health epidemic that is affecting our young people. One child at a time.”
Teens need their parents now more than ever. Parents are the central influence in their teens’ life and have an incredible ability to reassure and comfort them in times of distress. Right now a teen’s world is filled with social media noise and achievement pressures, resulting in high rates of anxiety, depression, and suicide. But hope exists. A parent’s ability to support their teen during the current milieu can be shaped by the emotional bond in their relationship.
Licensed therapist Susan Caso provides valuable insights and proven strategies to cultivate a “felt connectedness” in the family. As a clinician and a mom of three amazing kids, Susan knows raising teens can be met with growing pains, strife, and disconnection. The path to engagement and harmony at home can be baffling, but with new communication tools, Susan guides parents to build trust with their teens to overcome any obstacle. To strengthen the parent-teen relationship and safeguard your kids in today’s world, your first resource is The Parent-Teen Connection.
“The Parent-Child Connection is an invaluable resource for any parent who is searching for ways to strengthen their relationship with their teen. Susan Caso, MA, LPC takes readers on an immersive journey that allows you to develop insights into the cycle of interactions you have with your teen and how to purposefully shift your response to foster improved connectedness. This book seamlessly integrates empirical literature, clinical expertise, and practical tools that focus on coaching parents in what to do versus what not to do to facilitate a lifelong parent-child bond.”
– Jessica Hawks, PhD, Child and Adolescent Psychologist, Clinical Director, Pediatric Mental Health Institute Children’s Hospital Colorado, mother of two
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“Finally, a therapist who understands that if they are creating a strong alliance with teens but leaving parents on the sidelines, they have only done half the job! In her wonderful new book, Susan Caso has given families a precious gift: a roadmap for parents to understand and connect with their teens. In her supportive and non judgmental manner, Susan gently creates awareness and healing around parents’ childhood injuries that may be imposing barriers between themselves and their teens. Using stories, practical tips and even sample dialogue, she gives parents much needed tools to take down those barriers and build new bridges with empathy and compassion. This book is a must read for any parent who wants to build an enduring, loving and lasting relationship with their teenager.”
– Tzivy Reiter, LCSW – Director of Children’s and National Trauma Services, Ohel, New York
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“As a clinical psychologist, suicide loss survivor, and mental health advocate, I understand the critical importance of getting upstream from suicide and mental health emergencies by building resilience in our youth. Susan Caso’s “The Parent-Teen Connection” is an invaluable resource for parents aiming to create a secure, emotionally supportive environment for their teens. Bolstering connectedness is a central theme and lays the foundation for secure attachment and a genuine sense of belonging. Throughout, Caso expertly navigates communication hurdles, self-reflection, and the impact of external pressures. This book is a must-read for parents seeking to bridge generational gaps and cultivate a nurturing, emotionally close environment with their teens. Caso’s compassionate approach and expertise make this an invaluable resource for building resilient, loving families.”
– Dr. Sally Spencer-Thomas, President of United Suicide Survivors International, mother of three (www.SallySpencerThomas.com | www.UniteSurvivors.org)
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“This literary work proves accessible, comprehensive, and deeply resonants. It thoroughly engages with the myriad challenges parents may confront when guiding their adolescents through the complexities of modern society. Susan Caso adeptly counsels readers on establishing trust and nurturing emotional bonds with their teens, imparting the skills necessary to cultivate an environment of open communication, validation, and unwavering familial support. I wish that this book had been available when I was raising my children!”
– Honey Beuf- Executive Director, The Liv Project, mother of three
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“Susan Caso has written a resource that we have long needed – one that focuses on the important and evolving connections between parents and children, one that admits that things are not always textbook perfect, and one that engages parents and caregivers to cultivate feelings of connection without shaming them for the times they struggle. Susan’s empathy for how difficult it can be to connect in our changing and complex world shines through and her use of real-world examples should connect with anyone navigating these situations. Susan’s warmth combined with evidence-based practice and practical advice makes this a welcomed and necessary resource.”
– Matt Mishkind, PhD, Deputy Director, Johnson Depression Center, father of three
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“This must-have book helps parents navigate parenting in a vastly different world from their own upbringing. We’re providing it to all our clinicians to support patients in breaking generational trauma cycles and bring peace and calm back to their households with its profound insights.”
– Liesl Perez, Cofounder, Axis Integrated Mental Health, mother of four
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“Wow, wow! I am enriched by the words and practical advice in this book. ‘The Parent-Teen Connection’ is an insightful and transformative guide for parents navigating the often-tumultuous teenage years. This book delves deep into the emotional and psychological intricacies of parenting teens, offering practical strategies and heartfelt guidance to foster stronger, more meaningful connections. Through real-life stories and reflective exercises, parents are empowered to better understand their teens’ world, address their own past traumas, and build a foundation of trust and communication. A must-read for any parent seeking to create a nurturing and supportive environment for their teenagers.”
– Mary Gitau, Masters in Suicidology, Masters in Counseling Psychology, TRE, ACS, Founder and Director of Centre for Suicide Research & Intervention-Kenya, mother of two
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“Ms. Caso has created a powerful guide for parents to create a home environment and relationship dynamic with their teen that cultivates trust, respect, transparency, and connectedness. This book will be the catalyst for the parent-teen cultural shift that families have been yearning for. As a UCLA trained Child and Adolescent Psychiatrist in private practice for 20 years, I will be recommending this book to every parent I work with.”
– Teri Carlson, MD, Child and Adolescent Psychiatrist, owner – Boulder Creek Psychiatry, Boulder, CO, mother of two
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“Susan Caso has given parents a tremendous gift. Raising children in contemporary society has become increasingly complex. Susan‘s book provides a clear blueprint to navigating many difficult challenges from tech to attachment. This is a single resource for struggling parents filled with real stories that resonate from our kitchen tables and living rooms. This book is filled with practical advice and reviews of contemporary literature.
A must have for parenting in today’s wilderness!”
– Nelson Trujillo, M.D. Boulder Community Health, father of three
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“As the Executive Director of Rise Against Suicide, I have seen firsthand the impact of Susan Caso’s powerful and insightful book on connecting with our children. Susan’s profound understanding of the importance of parental connection and its impact on youth mental health is truly remarkable. Her words are inspiring and deeply resonant, and her book is a valuable resource for parents, educators, and anyone working with young people. I highly recommend this book to anyone looking to make a positive difference in the lives of children and teenagers.”
– Jenna Clinchard, Executive Director, Rise Against Suicide, mother of two
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“When I first started reading Susan’s book, my thought as a K-12 principal and educator for 42 years was “I must get The Parent-Teen Connection for every one of my parents!” The most important role that we will ever have as an adult is that of a parent. Our kids don’t come with training manuals and most parents (myself included) have to learn on the job. This year was the first year I have had parents asking for help… parents who want to do better.
Thank you, Susan, for writing The Parent-Teen Connection. It is a very practical “I can do this!” text. I highly recommend it to all parents who would love a better relationship with their child.”
– Kathy Whiting, MEd, K-8 Principal, WSCU Educational K-12 Regional Coordinator, CCS Principal, ELL, parent of three
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“In The Parent-Teen Connection, Susan Caso puts into words why emotional understanding is lacking and how to create lasting connections within your family. This is a relatable must-read for parents and young adults struggling to connect with each other, but this is not only a valuable parenting book. Susan Caso also gives great examples of how to communicate effectively and with emotional intention for any kind of relationship. This book definitely needs to be shared with family and friends.”
– Madison Bradley, 20 year old
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“Fostering a safe and trusting relationship between a young person and their parent or caregiver is one of the most important suicide prevention strategies we have for youth. The Parent-Teen Connection empathetically and clearly discusses how to become a trusted adult and how to navigate the many stressors impacting young people. This guide/book [your word preference!] is a critically helpful resource for parents or caregivers hoping to improve their relationships with their teenagers.”
– Lena MQ Heilmann, PhD, Suicide prevention expert and sibling suicide loss survivor
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“‘The Parent-Teen Connection’ should be required reading for all parents and teens. It is a readable, relatable step- by-step how-to textbook on relating to your teen and growing and maintaining those critical relationships. For those struggling with eating disorders, a strong parent-teen connection provides a better chance for a healthier teen. This book provides critical tools and communication techniques to enable that connection. A must read for all those seeking to strengthen their parent teen relationships”
– Stephen Shelley, board president of The Eating Disorder Foundation in Denver, CO, and father of two girls.
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“Susan’s book is a breath of fresh air. She takes the “fear” out of parenting teens and gives readers concrete steps to increase connectedness, build trust with their teens, and restore the joy of parenting these wonderful humans. As a twenty-year school counselor, I am excited for my families to have this great resource.”
– Mary Campbell, MA, NCC, School Counselor, Peak to Peak Charter School, mother of three
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“Susan Caso’s book The Parent-Teen Connection is an accessible journey into the sometimes-broken relationships of parents and teens. In conversations that can feel filled only with fear and hopelessness, she provides practical guidance and suggestions. With support and empathy, she seeks to engage and equip parents in conversations that center on genuine connection . . . both for parents and teens.”
– William R. DeLong, M.Div, Ed.D. retired Director of Spiritual Care and Ethics, Legacy Randall Children’s Hospital, Emanuel Medical Center, and The Oregon Burn Center- Portland Oregon
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“As a district court judge and a family law attorney I have been involved in thousands of cases where parents struggle to cultivate a connection with their teens. Susan Caso’s book, The Parent-Teen Connection, would be valuable to any parent willing to move past the “rebellious teen” approach and instead explore and be curious about their teen, in order to create a more meaningful connection. She skillfully, and in lay person language, draws on her 20 years of experience as a therapist to provide techniques for parents to recognize and break down how their own history and patterns of interaction can be altered to create and improve a trusting and safe place in the home, where a teen is able to express their needs and feel they belong. The “volleying” method she emphasizes of a successful “serve and return” in parent-teen communication highlights the power a parent and teen have to consciously move from a situation where they feel like strangers living under the same roof to one where emotional transparency creates a real, secure and loving relationship.”
– Judith L. LaBuda, M.A., J.D., mother of two
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“The Parent-Teen Connection is a realistic and actionable guide to creating great relationships between parents and teens in today’s world. It brings core components of suicide prevention, including connectedness and belonging, to the forefront in a protective versus reactive approach.”
– Erin Ivie, Executive Director of Speak Up Reach Out
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“The Parent-Teen Connection insightfully explains why connection is the most important part of parenting right now. Susan Caso provides simple, accessible, and highly impactful strategies. She gives parents communication tools and the language to have a warm and genuine relationship with their family.”
– Emily Brown Werner, PhD, Werner Child Psychology, mother of three
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“Susan was a guest speaker for an Internet safety presentation we hosted for our teens and families. Our parents and Staff greatly appreciated her insights and expertise on the connection between screen time and mental health. Susan’s book, The Parent Teen Connection, delves even deeper into the connection topic, offering specific exercises for addressing self-defeating behaviors that can hinder our effectiveness in working with teens. She provides practical instructions and applications for building stronger connections between parents and teens, presented in an easily digestible manner.
Susan gives concrete examples of how connection is vital to strong, healthy relationships, not only between teens and parents but also in how the parent-teen connection impacts a teen’s social life. Her book serves as an excellent blueprint for parents and anyone working with teens, showing how to build deeper connections. The Parent Teen Connection is a valuable addition to any parent’s or professional’s library.”
– David Saylor, Program Director, Remembrance Ranch